Ineachofthetranslationsthishiddenrequestforsupportisrevealed.Ifamanlisteningtoawomancan
recognizetheimpliedrequestandrespondaccordingly,shewillfeeltrulyheardandloved.
The Venusian/Martinn Phrase Dictionary
"Wenevergoout"translatedintoMartianmeans"Ifeellikegoingoutanddoingsomethingtogether.We
alwayshavesuchafuntime,andIlovebeingwithyou.Whatdoyouthink?Wouldyoutakemeoutto
dinner?Ithasbeenafewdayssincewewentout."
Withoutthistranslation,whenawomansays"Wenevergoout"amanmayhear"Youarenotdoingyour
job.Whatadisappointmentyouhaveturnedouttobe.Weneverdoanythingtogetheranymorebecause
youarelazy,unromantic,andjustboring."
"Everyoneignoresme"translatedintoMartianmeans"Today,Iamfeelingignoredandunacknowledged.I
feelasthough nobodyseesme.OfcourseI'msuresomepeopleseeme,buttheydon'tseemtocare
aboutme.IsupposeIamalsodisappointedthatyouhavebeensobusylately.Ireallydoappreciatehow
hardyouareworkingandsometimesIstarttofeellikeIamnotimportanttoyou.Iamafraidyourworkis
moreimportantthanme.WouldyougivemeahugandtellmehowspecialIamtoyou?"
Withoutthistranslation,whenawomansays"Everyoneignoresme"amanmayhear"Iamsounhappy.I
justcan'tgettheattentionIneed.Everythingiscompletelyhopeless.Evenyoudon'tnoticeme,andyou
arethepersonwhoissupposedtoloveme.Youshouldbeashamed.Youaresounloving.Iwouldnever
ignoreyouthisway."
"Iamsotired,Ican'tdoanything"translatedintoMartianmeans"Ihavebeendoingsomuchtoday.I
reallyneedarestbeforeIcandoanythingmore.Iamsoluckytohaveyoursupport.Wouldyougivemea
hugandreassuremethatIamdoingagoodJobandthatIdeservearest?"
Withoutthistranslation,whenawomansays"Iamsotired,Ican'tdoanything"amanmayhear"Ido
everythingandyoudonothing.Youshoulddomore.Ican'tdoitall.Ifeelsohopeless.Iwanta'realman'
tolivewith.Pickingyouwasabigmistake."
"Iwanttoforgeteverything"translatedintoMartianmeans"IwantyoutoknowthatIlovemyworkand
mylifebuttodayIamsooverwhelmed.IwouldlovetodosomethingreallynurturingformyselfbeforeI
havetoberesponsibleagain.Wouldyouaskme'What'sthematter?'andthenlistenwithempathywithout
offeringanysolutions?IjustwanttofeelyouunderstandingthepressuresIfeel.Itwouldmakemefeelso
muchbetter.Ithelpsmetorelax.TomorrowIwillgetbacktobeingresponsibleandhandlingthings."
Withoutthistranslation,whenawomansays"Iwanttoforgeteverything"amanmayhear"Ihavetodo
somuchthatIdon'twanttodo.Iamsounhappywithyouandourrelationship.Iwantabetterpartner
whocanmakemylifemorefulfilling.Youaredoingaterriblejob."