Men Are from Mars, Women Arefrom Venus isamanualforlovingrelationshipsintheI 990 s. It
revealshowmenandwomendifferinallareasoftheirlives.Notonlydomenandwomencommunicate
differentlybuttheythink,feel,perceive,react,respond,love,need,andappreciatedifferently.Theyalmost
seemtobefromdifferentplanets,speakingdifferentlanguagesandneedingdifferentnourishment.
Thisexpandedunderstandingofourdifferenceshelpsresolvemuchofthefrustrationindealingwithand
trying to understand the opposite sex. Misunderstandings can then be quickly dissipated or avoided.
Incorrectexpectationsareeasilycorrected.Whenyourememberthatyourpartnerisasdifferentfromyou
assomeonefromanotherplanet,youcanrelaxandcooperatewiththedifferencesinsteadofresistingor
tryingtochangethem.
Mostimportant,throughoutthisbookyouwilllearnpracticaltechniquesforsolvingtheproblemsthatarise
from ourdifferences.Thisbookisnotjustatheoreticalanalysisofpsychologicaldifferencesbutalsoa
practicalmanualforhowtosucceedincreatinglovingrelationships.
Thetruthoftheseprinciplesisself-evidentandcanbevalidatedby yourownexperienceaswellasby
commonsense.Manyexampleswillsimplyandconciselyexpresswhatyouhavealwaysintuitivelyknown.
Thisvalidationwillassistyouinbeingyouandinnotlosingyourselfinyourrelationships.
In response to these insights,men oftensay "This is exactly howI am. Haveyou been followingme
around?Inolongerfeellikesomethingiswrongwithme."
Womenoften say "Finally my husbandlistensto me. Idon'thaveto fighttobe validated. Whenyou
explainourdifferences,myhusbandunderstands.Thankyou!"
Thesearebutafewofthethousandsofinspirationalcommentsthatpeoplehavesharedafterlearningthat
menarefromMarsandwomenarefromVenus.Theresultsofthisnewprogramforunderstandingthe
oppositesexarenotonlydramaticandimmediatebutalsolonglasting.
Certainlythejourneyofcreatingalovingrelationshipcanberockyattimes.Problemsareinevitable.But
theseproblemseithercanbesourcesofresentmentandrejectionorcanbeopportunitiesfordeepening
intimacyandincreasinglove,caring,andtrust.Theinsightsofthisbookarenota"quickfix"toeliminate
allproblems.Insteadtheyprovideanewapproachwherebyyourrelationshipscansuccessfullysupportyou
insolvinglife'sproblemsastheyarise.Withthisnewawarenessyouwillhavethetoolsyouneedtogetthe
loveyoudeserveandtogiveyourpartnertheloveandsupportheorshedeserves.
Imakemanygeneralizationsaboutmenandwomeninthisbook.Probablyyouwillfindsomecomments
truerthanothers...afterall,weareuniqueindividualswithuniqueexperiences.Sometimesinmyseminar
couplesandindividualswillsharethattheyrelatetotheexamplesofmenandwomenbutinanopposite
way.Themanrelatestomydescriptionsofwomenandthewomanrelatestomydescriptionsofmen.I
callthisrolereversal.