Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus

(Tina Meador) #1

samethinghappenswhenaVenusianexpresseshertrust_-aMartianautomaticallywillbegintoreciprocate
withthecaringsheneeds.


In thefollowingsixsections wewilldefinethetwelvekindsoflovein practicaltermsand revealtheir
reciprocalnature.



  1. She Needs Caring and He Needs Trust


Whenaman showsinterestinawoman'sfeelingsand heart-feltconcernforher well_being, shefeels
lovedandcaredfor.Whenhemakesherfeelspecialinthiscaringway,hesucceedsinfulfillingherfirst
primaryneed. Naturally shebeginsto trusthim more. Whenshe trusts, shebecomesmoreopen and
receptive.


Whenawoman'sattitudeisopenandreceptivetowardamanhefeelstrusted.Totrustamanistobelieve
thatheisdoinghisbestandthathewantsthebestforhispartner.Whenawoman'sreactionsreveala
positivebeliefinherman'sabilitiesandintentions,hisfirstprimaryloveneedisfulfilled.Automaticallyheis
morecaringandattentivetoherfeelingsandneeds.



  1. She Needs Understanding and He Needs Acceptance


When aman listens withoutjudgmentbut with empathy andrelatednessto awoman expressing her
feelings,shefeelsheardandunderstood.Anunderstandingattitudedoesn'tpresumetoalready knowa
person'sthoughtsorfeelings;instead,itgathersmeaningfromwhatisheard,andmovestowardvalidating
whatisbeingcommunicated.Themoreawoman'sneedtobeheardandunderstoodisfulfilled,theeasier
itisforhertogivehermantheacceptanceheneeds.


Whenawomanlovingly receivesamanwithouttryingtochangehim,hefeelsaccepted.Anaccepting
attitude does notrejectbutaffirmsthathe isbeingfavorablyreceived. Itdoes notmean the woman
believesheisperfectbutindicatesthatsheisnottryingtoimprovehim,thatshetrustshimtomakehis
own improvements. When a manfeels accepted itismuch easier for him to listen and give herthe
understandingsheneedsanddeserves.



  1. She Needs Respect and He Needs Appreciation


Whenamanrespondstoawoman inaway thatacknowledgesandprioritizes herrights,wishes, and
needs,shefeelsrespected.Whenhisbehaviortakesintoconsiderationherthoughtsandfeelings,sheis
sure to feel respected. Concrete and physical expressions of respect, like flowers and remembering
anniversaries,areessentialtofulfillawoman'sthird primary loveneed. Whenshefeelsrespecteditis
mucheasierforhertogivehermantheappreciationthathedeserves.


When a woman acknowledges having received personalbenefit and value from a man's efforts and

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