samethinghappenswhenaVenusianexpresseshertrust_-aMartianautomaticallywillbegintoreciprocate
withthecaringsheneeds.
In thefollowingsixsections wewilldefinethetwelvekindsoflovein practicaltermsand revealtheir
reciprocalnature.
- She Needs Caring and He Needs Trust
Whenaman showsinterestinawoman'sfeelingsand heart-feltconcernforher well_being, shefeels
lovedandcaredfor.Whenhemakesherfeelspecialinthiscaringway,hesucceedsinfulfillingherfirst
primaryneed. Naturally shebeginsto trusthim more. Whenshe trusts, shebecomesmoreopen and
receptive.
Whenawoman'sattitudeisopenandreceptivetowardamanhefeelstrusted.Totrustamanistobelieve
thatheisdoinghisbestandthathewantsthebestforhispartner.Whenawoman'sreactionsreveala
positivebeliefinherman'sabilitiesandintentions,hisfirstprimaryloveneedisfulfilled.Automaticallyheis
morecaringandattentivetoherfeelingsandneeds.
- She Needs Understanding and He Needs Acceptance
When aman listens withoutjudgmentbut with empathy andrelatednessto awoman expressing her
feelings,shefeelsheardandunderstood.Anunderstandingattitudedoesn'tpresumetoalready knowa
person'sthoughtsorfeelings;instead,itgathersmeaningfromwhatisheard,andmovestowardvalidating
whatisbeingcommunicated.Themoreawoman'sneedtobeheardandunderstoodisfulfilled,theeasier
itisforhertogivehermantheacceptanceheneeds.
Whenawomanlovingly receivesamanwithouttryingtochangehim,hefeelsaccepted.Anaccepting
attitude does notrejectbutaffirmsthathe isbeingfavorablyreceived. Itdoes notmean the woman
believesheisperfectbutindicatesthatsheisnottryingtoimprovehim,thatshetrustshimtomakehis
own improvements. When a manfeels accepted itismuch easier for him to listen and give herthe
understandingsheneedsanddeserves.
- She Needs Respect and He Needs Appreciation
Whenamanrespondstoawoman inaway thatacknowledgesandprioritizes herrights,wishes, and
needs,shefeelsrespected.Whenhisbehaviortakesintoconsiderationherthoughtsandfeelings,sheis
sure to feel respected. Concrete and physical expressions of respect, like flowers and remembering
anniversaries,areessentialtofulfillawoman'sthird primary loveneed. Whenshefeelsrespecteditis
mucheasierforhertogivehermantheappreciationthathedeserves.
When a woman acknowledges having received personalbenefit and value from a man's efforts and