Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus

(Tina Meador) #1

behavior,hefeelsappreciated. Appreciationisthenaturalreaction to beingsupported.When amanis
appreciated heknowshis effortis not wasted andis thus encouraged to give more. When aman is
appreciatedheisautomaticallyempoweredandmotivatedtorespecthispartnermore.



  1. She Needs Devotion and He Needs Admiration


Whenamangivesprioritytoawoman'sneedsandproudlycommitshimselftosupportingandfulfillingher,
herfourthprimaryloveneedisfulfilled.Awomanthriveswhenshefeelsadoredandspecial.Amanfulfills
herneedtobelovedinthiswaywhenhemakesherfeelingsandneedsmoreimportantthanhisother
interests-_likework,study,andrecreation.Whenawomanfeelsthatsheisnumberoneinhislifethen,
quiteeasily,sheadmireshim.


Justasawomanneedstofeelaman'sdevotion,amanhasaprimaryneedtofeelawoman'sadmiration.
Toadmireamanistoregardhimwithwonder,delight,andpleasedapproval.Amanfeelsadmiredwhen
she is happily amazed by his unique characteristics or talents, which may include humor, strength,
persistence,integrity,honesty,romance,kindness,love,understanding,andotherso-calledold_fashioned
virtues.Whenamanfeelsadmired,hefeelssecureenoughtodevotehimselftohiswomanandadoreher.



  1. She Needs Validation and He Needs Approval


Whenaman does notobjecttoor arguewithawoman'sfeelingsandwantsbutinsteadaccepts and
confirms theirvalidity, awoman truly feels loved because her fifth primary need is fulfilled. A man's
validatingattitudeconfirmsawoman'srighttofeelthewayshedoes.(Itisimportanttorememberone
canvalidateherpointofviewwhilehavingadifferentpointofview.)Whenamanlearnshowtoleta
womanknowthathehasthisvalidatingattitude, heisassuredofgettingtheapprovalthatheprimarily
needs.


Deepinside,everymanwantstobehiswoman'sheroorknightinshiningarmor.Thesignalthathehas
passedhertestsisherapproval.Awoman'sapprovingattitudeacknowledgesthegoodnessinamanand
expresses overall satisfaction with him. (Remember, giving approval to a man doesn't always mean
agreeingwithhim.)Anapprovingattituderecognizesorlooksforthegoodreasonsbehindwhathedoes.
Whenhereceivestheapprovalheneeds,itbecomeseasierforhimtovalidateherfeelings.



  1. She Needs Reassurance and He Needs Encouragement


Whenamanrepeatedlyshowsthathecares,understands,respects,validatesandisdevotedtohispartner,
herprimaryneedtobereassuredisfulfilled.Areassuringattitudetellsawomanthatsheiscontinually
loved.


Amancommonlymakesthemistakeofthinkingthatoncehehasmetallofawoman'sprimaryloveneeds,

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