behavior,hefeelsappreciated. Appreciationisthenaturalreaction to beingsupported.When amanis
appreciated heknowshis effortis not wasted andis thus encouraged to give more. When aman is
appreciatedheisautomaticallyempoweredandmotivatedtorespecthispartnermore.
- She Needs Devotion and He Needs Admiration
Whenamangivesprioritytoawoman'sneedsandproudlycommitshimselftosupportingandfulfillingher,
herfourthprimaryloveneedisfulfilled.Awomanthriveswhenshefeelsadoredandspecial.Amanfulfills
herneedtobelovedinthiswaywhenhemakesherfeelingsandneedsmoreimportantthanhisother
interests-_likework,study,andrecreation.Whenawomanfeelsthatsheisnumberoneinhislifethen,
quiteeasily,sheadmireshim.
Justasawomanneedstofeelaman'sdevotion,amanhasaprimaryneedtofeelawoman'sadmiration.
Toadmireamanistoregardhimwithwonder,delight,andpleasedapproval.Amanfeelsadmiredwhen
she is happily amazed by his unique characteristics or talents, which may include humor, strength,
persistence,integrity,honesty,romance,kindness,love,understanding,andotherso-calledold_fashioned
virtues.Whenamanfeelsadmired,hefeelssecureenoughtodevotehimselftohiswomanandadoreher.
- She Needs Validation and He Needs Approval
Whenaman does notobjecttoor arguewithawoman'sfeelingsandwantsbutinsteadaccepts and
confirms theirvalidity, awoman truly feels loved because her fifth primary need is fulfilled. A man's
validatingattitudeconfirmsawoman'srighttofeelthewayshedoes.(Itisimportanttorememberone
canvalidateherpointofviewwhilehavingadifferentpointofview.)Whenamanlearnshowtoleta
womanknowthathehasthisvalidatingattitude, heisassuredofgettingtheapprovalthatheprimarily
needs.
Deepinside,everymanwantstobehiswoman'sheroorknightinshiningarmor.Thesignalthathehas
passedhertestsisherapproval.Awoman'sapprovingattitudeacknowledgesthegoodnessinamanand
expresses overall satisfaction with him. (Remember, giving approval to a man doesn't always mean
agreeingwithhim.)Anapprovingattituderecognizesorlooksforthegoodreasonsbehindwhathedoes.
Whenhereceivestheapprovalheneeds,itbecomeseasierforhimtovalidateherfeelings.
- She Needs Reassurance and He Needs Encouragement
Whenamanrepeatedlyshowsthathecares,understands,respects,validatesandisdevotedtohispartner,
herprimaryneedtobereassuredisfulfilled.Areassuringattitudetellsawomanthatsheiscontinually
loved.
Amancommonlymakesthemistakeofthinkingthatoncehehasmetallofawoman'sprimaryloveneeds,