andshefeelshappyandsecure,thatsheshouldknowfromthenonthatsheisloved.Thisisnotthecase.
Tofulfillhersixthprimaryloveneedhemustremembertoreassureheragainandagain.
Similarly,amanprimarilyneedstobeencouraged byawoman.Awoman'sencouragingattitudegives
hope and courage to aman by expressing confidence in his abilities andcharacter When a woman's
attitudeexpressesmist,acceptance,appreciation,admiration,andapprovalitencouragesamantobeall
thathecanbe.Feelingencouragedmotivateshimtogiveherthelovingreassurancethatsheneeds.
Thebestcomesoutinamanwhenhissix primary loveneedsarefulfilled.Butwhenawomandoesn't
knowwhatheprimarilyneedsandgivesacaringloveratherthanatrustinglove,shemayunknowingly
sabotagetheirrelationship.Thisnextstoryexemplifiesthispoint.
THEKNIGHTINSHININGARMOR..................................................................................................
Deepinsideeveryman thereisaherooraknightinshiningarmor.Morethananything,hewants to
succeedinservingandprotectingthewomanheloves.Whenhefeelstrusted,heisabletotapintothis
noble part of himself. He becomes morecaring. When he doesn't feeltrusted he loses some of his
alivenessandenergy,andafterawhilehecanstopcaring.
Imagineaknightinshiningarmortravelingthroughthecountryside.Suddenlyhehearsawomancrying
outindistress.Inaninstanthecomesalive.Urginghishorsetoagallop,heracestohercastle,whereshe
is trapped bya dragon.Thenobleknightpulls outhisswordandslays thedragon. Asaresult, heis
lovinglyreceivedbytheprincess.
Asthegatesopenheiswelcomedandcelebratedbythefamilyoftheprincessandthetownspeople.Heis
invitedtoliveinthetownandisacknowledgedasahero.Heandtheprincessfallinlove.
Amonthlaterthenobleknightgoesoffonanothertrip.Onhiswayback,hehearshisbelovedprincess
cryingoutforhelp.Anotherdragonhasattackedthecastle.Whentheknightarriveshepullsouthissword
toslaythedragon.
Beforeheswings,theprincesscriesoutfromthetower,"Don'tuseyoursword,usethisnoose.Itwillwork
better."
Shethrowshimthenooseandmotionstohiminstructionsabouthowtouseit.Hehesitantlyfollowsher
instructions. Hewrapsitaroundthedragon'sneck andthen pullshard. Thedragon diesandeveryone
rejoices.
Atthecelebration dinnertheknightfeelshedidn'treally doanything. Somehow, becauseheusedher
nooseanddidn'tusehissword,hedoesn'tquitefeelworthyofthetown'strustandadmiration.Afterthe
eventheisslightlydepressedandforgetstoshinehisarmor.