How to Use Power Phrases

32 Why PowerPhrases?

This phrase assumes that no call came because the listener
didn’t care and carries on from there. Leave out the assumption
and SpeakTall by saying,

When I didn’t hear from you, I made the decision

myself.

Avoid saying,

If you loved me, you would get a decent job.

This remark assumes that the listener’s job choice is a reflection
on love or the lack of it. Instead, express the situation from your
own perspective. Say,

It’s important to me that you carry your weight finan-

cially.

Avoid saying,

Why do you like to make me look stupid?

That statement implies the listener gets pleasure out of making
you look stupid. Instead say,

I believe what you did made me look stupid.

Address concerns directly, but don’t slip them in like a Trojan
Horse with another point.

6. Finally, have you ever blamed someone for something?
   Blame is Vicious Venom and those Poison Phrases that maim.