Step 6: End the session by sharing a few suggestions on how to handle the
mentor-protégé relationship in case...
My mentor wants to date me.The answer is “No!” Never date your mentor... not while you are in
this relationship, at least. It will only backfire on one or both of you.
My mentor is moving beyond our agreement, asking me to do personal
errands for him such as getting his car washed.Be assertive and say no. Remind him of the boundaries of this
relationship.
My manager is envious of my relationship with the mentor.Involve your
manager in setting goals. Encourage your manager and your mentor
to talk with one another about you and your professional plan. My peers are jealous.
Talk with your mentor and manager to determine what you can do.
Generously share what you are learning with your peers. Review with
your jealous peers how they can find a mentor. Our personalities clash. We are really mismatched.
Tactfully talk with your mentor about whether the relationship should
be continued. You might need to end this relationship and go find
another. Be sure to learn from this experience. My mentor won’t let me go.
Clarify whether or not you are really ready to move on. Talk with
your mentor about your readiness to change the scope of your
relationship. Point out your original goals in your agreement and
indicate that you have achieved them.POST-ACTIVITY REVIEW
Take time shortly after conducting this activity to reflect on how it went, how engaged
the participants were, and what questions they raised. Then, make notes that include
how much time you actually spent on the activity.
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