can go a long way. If you want, use the compliment she gave you to
bridge into an identity story.
Body language
This is probably the hardest to decipher, and there are lessons on top
of lessons about different ways that body language can convey interest.
Right now, I’m just going to give you a simple tip. If you’re at a bar and
you meet a girl, start telling a story. In the middle, stop and say, "Hey, I
want to grab a drink, come with me for a moment and I’ll finish the
story." If she says, "Yes" then she’s interested and keeping conversation
going and possibly attracted to you. If she says "no" and decides to stay
with her friends, then you have more work to do.
Now the question is: what do I do once I have three indicators of
interest?
It’s pretty simple. You show her that you’re interested in her too, and
that’s exactly what we’ll get into in the next chapter.
The Friend Zone
Friend zone can feel like a form of rejection, and rejection feels
awful. You want to have a romantic relationship with someone, but that
person isn’t interested and wants to be "just friends." I’ve been there,
I’ve felt it, I understand. Personally, I don’t like the term friend zone. It
describes feelings of rejection, neglect and frustration that definitely
exist, and so I covered it in the book, but I would like to take a moment
to explain how the words themselves hurt the connection between one
person and another.
I’ve met plenty of sad and frustrated guys who’ve said, “...then I
wasted a year in friend zone.” They’ll suggest “moving on” and rejecting
the friendship because the romance didn’t happen.