get better. The risk versus reward for approaching a woman is in your
favor. Before you approach, you'll feel your anxiety, but... this time say
to yourself, "It's no big deal. I can handle this."
Feel your fear. Recognize it. Put it to the side in your mind and go!
You've nothing to lose and everything to gain.
One very common question that my students ask me is, "When did
your approach anxiety go away?" The true answer is, it never does. It
often lessens over time, but it will always be there to a degree. Approach
anxiety is totally normal.
The good news is even the shyest guys can alleviate their approach
anxiety when they really try. You can too. Everyone can. So, when
you're out there practicing, here are some techniques you can use to
make sure the anxiety doesn't stop you from opening:
Technique 1: "It's like ripping off a Band-Aid."If you think about approach anxiety too much and try pulling it off
slowly, you’ll end up making it worse than it has to be. You just have to
rip it off; meaning you just have to make the approach.
Note that the first set of the day is always the hardest, just try to
power through it. Once you’ve made the first approach, the rest will be
easier. You're stronger than you think.
Remember, the only reason you’re anxious is because you want to
talk to those people and you’re worried about what they’ll think of you.
Take a risk, and see what happens.
Technique 2: "Micro-stepping"