I want the supermodel so my friends will be jealous.
I want the job so my parents will be proud of me.
Active disinterest assists in the generation of attraction by making
yourself the thing they're missing – the thing that will give the other
person what they need to fulfill their insecurity, longing or dream. This is
the most counterintuitive part of social value building, because it means
that you're demonstrating that you are not interested in an effort to pique
interest. There are a million ways to show active disinterest, but the
overall goal is to create an emotional spike.
Every seduction is a story.Don't believe me? Ask any person you know to tell you how they
met their husband, boyfriend, or girlfriend and you will inevitably hear a
story. That story will have emotional ups and downs in it.
All good stories have emotional spikes.In almost every romantic comedy: A guy meets a girl, and there’s
some reason they can’t be together, and as the movie goes on they learn
to dissolve that barrier and find love. If that barrier weren’t there, the
story would be boring.
We need emotional ups and downs to help us remember and enjoy a
story. A great seducer can make life a really, really great story. Which
means when you display active disinterest and add those emotional ups
and downs, you make this story fun and exciting for both of you.
Over the next few chapters, I'll delve deeper into these three steps.
You'll learn routines, a method for building identity stories, and ways to
start practicing active disinterest.