down, then a man’s support will just make it easier for her to
hit bottom. Once she hits bottom, if she feels his support, her
wave will rise up again.
WHEN THE WAVE CRASHES
These are some common examples of how a woman feels when
her wave crashes.
- She Feels Overwhelmed
She may suddenly begin to complain about her life. Instead
of feeling rejected, a man needs to listen and be understanding.
After she has talked about all that she has to do, a man must
resist giving a solution and give her a compliment.
If she says, “I have no time to go out. There is
so much to do. I just can’t do it all.”...DON’T SAY DO SAY
“You give so much of yourself
for so many people. Let me
give you a hug.”“Just don’t do so much. You
should relax and take it easy.”“There is so much to do.” Then
listen with empathy as she lists
everything.“Forget it and come out with
me. We can have a good time
instead of being miserable.”
After listening for a while to
everything that needs to be
done, either offer to help or
ask, “Is there anything I can
do?”“You worry too much. It will
all work out. Let’s just go out
and have a good time.”STAGE FOUR: INTIMACY / 95