WOMEN GIVE WHAT WOMEN WANT
When a man receives from a woman, it opens him up to receive
more, but when a woman receives from a man, it opens her
up to give more. Without this insight about our different reac-
tions, a woman will automatically give what she would want
and assume that it will make a man most interested in her.
If a man was to listen attentively to her, she would definitely
become more interested in him. If a man was to notice her
needs and wishes and happily go out of his way to fulfill them,
then she would be swept off her feet. Since this is her experi-
ence, she mistakenly assumes he will be swept off his feet when
she does those things for him. As a result, she becomes actively
interested in planning to do for him what she would love him
to do for her. She thinks she is doing the right thing. When he
doesn’t respond the way she would, she mistakenly assumes
that something is wrong with her or him.
A woman gives what she
would want and assumes it will make
a man most interested in her.
The problem is that when a man is swept off his feet in this
manner, he tends to take a nap. A man may like her attention
and support very much, but it stops there. He likes how she
makes him feel and in return he likes her as well. But when a
woman brings out the best in a man, then he really likes how
he feels and this motivates him to get to know her more. He
becomes actively interested.
If a woman focuses on being increasingly receptive to a
man’s advances, then she holds the key to creating an oppor-
tunity for a relationship to flourish. It not only gives him the
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