what he did that was positive and not on the negative aspects.
Let’s look at another example of how a woman unknowingly
turns off a man.
Standing Outside the Movie TheaterOnce while entering a movie theater on a date with my wife,
I overheard a conversation between a dating couple in their
sixties. It was clear that it was one of their early dates. I could
see him sincerely trying to please her. Although I heard only
the last part of the conversation, I knew what had happened
before.
They had just come out of a movie that he thought for sure
she would have liked, but for some reason she hated the movie.
As she expressed her dislike of the movie, I watched him
crumble. His whole posture wilted down.
As I passed by I heard him say, “Well, what would you like
to do now?” and her response was, “I would like to stand here
and tell every person what an awful movie that was. I can’t
believe they made that movie. It was just terrible. No one
should have to see it.”
Now, this woman was not trying to put her date down. She
didn’t even have a clue as to how he was taking her words.
He was feeling not only put down but completely flattened.
If she had understood his needs at that time, then it would
have been an easy choice for her to postpone sharing her
frustrations over the movie.
Many women don’t realize what a pleasure it is for a man
to feel successful at pleasing or fulfilling a woman. It gives him
such a lift. When anything on a date makes a woman happy,
he will take credit. When she likes the movie, on an emotional
level it is as if he had written the movie script and starred in
it. When she likes the soup at the restaurant, it is
MEN LOVE A WOMAN WITH A SMILE / 289