Confidence in a man makes a woman breathe deeper, relax,
and open up to receive the support he has to offer.
Confidence does not mean that a man has to be perfect, nor
does he have to have all the answers. Confidence is a can-do
attitude. He knows that no matter what happens, there is al-
ways a solution. Even if he doesn’t have the answer, he is
confident that he can, and will, find one.
When a man has a can-do attitude, even if he
doesn’t have all the answers, a woman can
breathe deeper, relax, and open up.With confidence, a man gains the objectivity to stand back
and look for what can be done. At distressing times, he remains
cool, calm, and collected. When a man gets angry and says
mean things, he is definitely not coming from his confidence.
Instead, he is feeling threatened and threatens back.
A confident man contains his feelings until he has figured
out what to do. He may not know the outcome, but he senses
that no matter what happens, he can always find the next step
to improve a situation. He feels that no matter how bad things
get, he can eventually figure out what can be done, or find
someone who knows what can be done, and then do it. A
confident attitude reassures a woman that everything will be
all right.
A Man with a PlanWhen a man is confident he is able to come up with a plan.
Women love a man with a plan. A woman doesn’t like it when
a man is too dependent on her for direction. Although women
give men a lot of directions and suggestions, they wish they
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