Mars and Venus On a Date :

didn’t have to. A woman is happy to do some of the planning,
but she wants the man to lead the way confidently.
A woman enjoys a date most when a man has a plan and he
feels confident about it. He knows what time it is, where he is,
where he is going, how long it is going to take, what he will
do when they get there, and that he has the money he needs.
He is confident that all will go well and as planned. If things
don’t work out as planned, he has a backup plan.
A confident man’s backup plan is that he will assess the
situation and make the best of it. He will forge his way into
unknown territory and have an adventure. He will do his best
and things will turn out fine.

When Men Lose Confidence

Confidence is natural to men, but they can easily lose it when
they don’t understand something. A man loses confidence on
a date because he doesn’t understand women. When a woman
seems upset by something, he may not understand what to
do. Instead of taking charge and finding a solution, he too
quickly surrenders to asking her what she would like. Then
she feels she has to come up with the plan.
It is fine for a woman to help with the plan, but she must
not feel that she is fully responsible. It is so easy for a man to
think, “Well, I really don’t care what happens. As long as she
is happy I will be fine. I’ll just do what she says.” He doesn’t
realize that what makes her happiest is not having to figure
out what makes her happy.
Before asking her what to do, he needs first to consider
various options and ask her what she thinks and then be open
to what she suggests. When he thinks of options, she doesn’t
have to feel the whole responsibility of what their plan is. Even
if he doesn’t know what to do and can’t even

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