Why a Man Needs to Be “On”Certainly men shouldn’t have to be “on” all the time either.
But when a man is dating a woman, particularly in the first
three stages, he needs to be “on,” just as he does when he goes
to work. That is what makes a person a professional. A profes-
sional man is someone who competently does his job whether
he feels like it or not. He does it regardless of his mood. He is
reliable and responsible.
On a date, a man is there for a woman regardless of how he
feels. When he needs downtime, he should do that at home by
himself or with his friends.
In the first three stages of dating, a man can get
his partner’s love when he
is “on,” and when he is feeling down, he should be on his
own.There is no greater way to kill romance than for a man to
tell a woman all his problems. In an instant, she will start
feeling responsible for him and start feeling maternal. Certainly
in the fourth stage of dating (intimacy), he can let down his
sense of being responsible and share more of his vulnerable
side, but definitely not until the couple has many months of
experiencing clearly that he can be responsible for himself and
for her.
Before sharing his vulnerable side, a man
should clearly demonstrate that he can be
responsible for himself and for her.This may start to sound unfair, as if the man is supposed to
be “on” and the woman doesn’t have to be. The truth is, men
love it when a woman lets go of being so responsible, because
then her receptive and responsive feminine side can be turned
on.
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