strength to pull himself up and be there for her. If he can’t be
there for her, then he should at least not expect her to be there
for him. He needs to take the time he needs to pull himself up
and then come back and be there for her.
When a Man Takes ChargeA woman loves it when a man takes charge to follow through
and do something without putting it back in her lap. This is
very important to her because most women already have a
tendency to be overly responsible. The more complex and
stressful their lives become, the more overwhelmed and ex-
hausted they become.
A woman begins to feel responsible for doing everything
for everyone. Her way of getting relief is to share these feelings
with someone she loves. If she can share, something happens
inside her and she doesn’t feel so responsible. It is as if she sees
all possible problems and, unless she tells someone, she feels
it is all up to her.
By sharing, a woman is able to release the
burden of feeling solely responsible.When she can share those feelings with a friend who is also
responsible and he can stay relaxed and present, she begins to
relax and come back to the present moment. When a man can
hear a woman’s feelings without minimizing them or trying
to fix them, she can let go of feeling so responsible and feel
good again. Even though he is not taking on her problems, the
more responsible he is, the more it has the effect of relaxing
and nurturing her.
When she feels that she is being heard, then she knows that
if he can do anything to be of assistance he will do what
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