Orgasm(c) The husband should also stimulate the area surrounding the clitoris.
(d) He may transfer some lubrication from his wife’s vagina to her clitoris or use
artificial lubrication if the need be.
(e) As stimulation continues, the wife should concentrate on her arousal, turning
herself, her mind and her emotions loose.
(f) The husband must remember that with the dry finger, there could be irritation and
this may rather turn his wife off.
(g) The stimulation may vary from a gentle and delicate touch on the button to firm
pressure on the hood.
(h) Stimulation should be continuous and uninterrupted.
(i) When the wife is aroused near an orgasm, she will begin to breathe a little faster,
heavier and deeper.
(j) If your wife approaches orgasm but seems to have difficulty moving into it simply
continue this arousal procedure; eventually it will happen. (See description of
female orgasm, on page 152, to know what exactly will happen).^4
How to Develop the Female Orgasm
(a) Orgasm in a wife depends on both the co-operation of the man and the woman.
(b) Remember, your mind is the biggest sexual organ.
(c) Whether or not orgasm occurs depends on the degree of control by a woman’s
brain.
(d) It is important for the woman to feel free.
(e) A woman who has no inhibitions about sex will have an orgasm whereas a woman
who has inhibitions may fail to have an orgasm. Usually these inhibitions reduce
as time passes in marriage and the couple has become more relaxed.
(f) Forget about yourself and who you are.
(g) Do not link sexual activity to perfect emotional climates which are rare in real life.
(h) Sex can go on satisfactorily amidst the normal day to day pressures and stresses
of work, the home, children and church without being in a state of ecstatic love.
The key is to de-link.
(i) Wives possess the key of de-linking.
(j) Almost every woman can have an orgasm by being sufficiently relaxed and
confident in her marriage to let her husband know her needs, so that he helps her
reach orgasm by stimulating her. Sex without the right frame of mind and
relaxation will never lead to orgasm in a woman.
(k) In a fulfilling marriage, the husband must be willing and happy to stimulate his
wife sexually in the way she wishes.
(l) Ideally, no woman should be embarrassed about asking her husband to do this.
But because many women are ashamed to ask, they reduce their sexual pleasure.