Model Marriage
The Melancholic Wife and Sex
- Is an unpredictable love partner because she has the greatest of all mood swings.^6
- On some occasions she can be as exciting and stimulating as any sanguine. On
other occasions she has absolutely no interest in anything, including love. At
times, she may meet her husband at the door and sweep him of his feet right into
the bedroom but at other times she may ignore his arrival completely. - She is the supreme romantic and her moods are as apparent as the noonday sun.
- When in the mood for love, she resorts to dinner by candlelight, soft music, and
heavy perfume. - She is capable of enjoying ecstatic love at heights that would choke other
temperaments, but she does not do that frequently. - To her, quality in sex life is preferable to quantity.
- Of all the temperaments she is the one who gives love as a reward for good
behaviour and no man enjoys that. - She can be excessively religious about sex especially if her mother had a problem
in this area. - She may use religious arguments and Bible verses to excuse her sexual abstinence.
- Probably, the real reason for her sexual abstinence may be that she has a fixed idea
before marriage that sex is not a good thing. - She may hardly give herself the opportunity to learn that sex is good and desirable.
- Is usually interested in sex when she wants to get pregnant and have children.
- Seemingly little things can be turned into huge problems for the melancholic wife,
for example, her husband’s
a. inability to balance the cheque book,
b. failure to run an errand,
c. neglect to bath.
These may thoroughly upset her and send her into quiet revenge. She has to realize that she
is cheating herself out of both the enjoyment of lovemaking and the loving approval of her
husband.
- She has the potential of being an exciting and fulfilling love partner if her
weaknesses do not overpower her strengths.