Chapter 45
Sex at an Older Age
With time, as husbands and wives grow older their sex life invariably also changes. It is not
acceptable to assume that sexual excitement must die or reduce as a couple grows. Sexual
excitement is rather experienced and expressed differently with age. Let us take a look at what
sex means to different ages.
Sex in the 30’s
When in their 30’s women gain more sexual confidence and begin to take initiative during
lovemaking. Many are not as passive as they were when younger. Women in their 30’s are more
expressive about their sexual needs and their need for orgasm. Medical science attributes this
new aggressiveness to hormonal changes in the woman––with increased testosterone, she
becomes more confident and interested in orgasm. Some men may find this sudden change in
their previously compliant wives rather frightening; others will welcome her initiative and
respond positively. The men too, are now more concerned about what brings satisfaction to their
partners. Men in their 30’s, unlike the women, experience a minor reduction in DHEA (a natural
steroid) and testosterone levels.
Sex in the 40’s
Usually, as women approach the end of their childbearing years at the age of forty, they often
find more opportunity to focus on themselves, and therefore blossom. This is reflected in a more
fulfilling sex life. Both men and women in their 40s have attained some measure of emotional
maturity and have overcome sexual inadequacies. They find that they are more compatible and
less concerned about their performance in bed.