Model Marriage by Bishop Dag Heward Mills

Model Marriage

Phlegmatics are usually counsellors, teachers, nurses etc. They usually lead Bible

studies or women’s ministries.^3

Weaknesses of a Phlegmatic Wife

1. Unenthusiastic––doesn’t get overexcited over achievement and exploits. Her goal is
   to conserve her limited supply of energy. This lack of enthusiasm can cause significant
   conflict in her relationships with family and friends who may interpret it as a lack of
   love, admiration, concern, interest and can actually result in emotional damage to her
   loved ones.


2. Uninvolved––they can hide behind motherhood and use it as justification for non-
   involvement.


3. Fearful––she is fearful and is plagued by “what ifs”. She can actually be paralyzed by
   fears and insecurities and this can mar her relationships.


4. Sluggish––she is not very big on work! She often looks for the barest minimum she
   can do and still get on. Her house can be disorganized but perhaps not to the extent of
   that of the sanguine. Phlegmatics can be addicted to TV and their sluggish lifestyle can
   lead to excessive weight gain.


5. Compromising––she’s a follower by nature and may compromise her standards to suit
   whoever she spends the most time with. Because of this, she can fall among bad
   company.


6. Avoids confrontation––she can make it easy for others to behave irresponsibly around
   her because she may condone certain behaviour just to please or to avoid confrontation.
   She has to learn to firmly and lovingly back away and allow people to reap the logical
   consequences of their choices.


7. Stubborn––She does not complain or argue but may quietly and unwaveringly stick to
   her guns, while the other temperaments go berserk over her refusal to co-operate.


8. She turns her attention to her children, if there are problems with her husband.


9. She is afraid of embarrassment, exposure and conflict. Therefore, she does not easily say
   unsavoury things about her marriage.


10. She is self-righteous, and often not spiritually keen. She is not keen on anything.


11. She is selfish:
    
    
    • She cares for, protects and keeps to herself.
    
    
    • This is a manifestation of a selfish life of concern about herself.
    
    
    • She can cause people around her to resent her for being inward or
      selfish.
    
    
    
    


12. She is unconcerned about her dressing.


13. She can be disorganized at home and neglect housecleaning:
    
    
    • She is slothful.
    
    
    • She is disorderly because she likes to have everything within easy reach.
    
    
    
    


14. She may find her active partner mean because he drags her to places with lots of
    activity and people when she just wants rest.