Problem-Solving in Marriage- Things to avoid when solving problems:
(a) Do not shout.
(b) Do not share your problems with your relatives or friends.
(c) Do not break down in tears.
(d) Do not use sex as a weapon (do not refuse him/her).
(e) Do not refuse to eat prepared food.
(f) Never use the word DIVORCE in quarrels.
(g) Avoid the counsel of the ungodly.- Have a forgiving attitude and spirit.
Forgiveness is very essential for the survival of the marriage.^4 Do not be nice to outsiders, but
impatient and inconsiderate to your spouse.
- Be prepared to talk frankly about the issue.
The offended person must be willing to open up and share in love rather than nag, shout or
bury things.
For I am full of matter, the spirit within me constraineth me. Behold, my belly is
as wine which hath no vent; it is ready to burst like new bottles. I will speak, that
I may be refreshed: I will open my lips and answer.Job 32:18-20- The other party must be willing to accept fault and apologise.
“I AM SORRY.” These three words can resolve almost all quarrels. Be humble and don’t
find it difficult to apologise.
And when ye stand praying, forgive, if ye have ought against any: that your
Father also which is in heaven may forgive you your trespasses. But if ye do not
forgive, neither will your Father which is in“heaven forgive your trespasses.Mark 11:25-26- Do not let any problem colour your future actions.^5