Model Marriage
Major Problem Areas in Marriage
(a) Communication
(b) Sex
(c) Money
(d) Temperament
(e) Children
(f) In-laws
(g) Job
(h) Housework
(i) Infidelity.Approach
Brethren, if a man be overtaken in a fault, ye which are spiritual, restore such
an one in the spirit of meekness; considering thyself, lest thou also be tempted.Galatians 6:1It is in the interest of married couples to do all they can to prevent problems from showing up
in their marriages.
Preventive measures are always better than curative solutions to problems.
However, the reality of the marital relationship is that no matter what you do, issues crop up
that lead to problems. If problems arise, your approach to solving them must be this:^1
(a) Pray about the situation.
(b) Be positive that there is a solution.
(c) Bring up the issue (in the spirit of meekness––do not be confrontational).
(d) Identify the causes (sincerely). Get to the root, not the tip of the problem.
(e) If necessary, consult your pastors.Methods of Solving Problems
- Be ready to compromise.
There is no winner or loser in marriage, you are one flesh.^2 When there is a clear disagreement,
the husband’s decision must stand and the wife must support it even if he turns out to be wrong.
However, the man must not be domineering. He must not be a dictator in his house.^3