Principles of Marriage and Family Ethics

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except if they commit adultery'. Most cases of divorce are not based
upongoodreasons,butareonimmatureexcuses.Thatis,thereasonsfor
mostcasesofdivorcearetrivialandarenotwortheffectingthesepara-
tionofacouple.Thehusbandorwife,becauseofselfishness,mayexag-
gerate a trivial problem and decide that their married life must be ended.


"Mrs...,twenty-fouryearsold,askedher husbandto inviteher par-
entstoanexpensivedinner.Sincehedidnotacceptherdemand,sheap-
plied for a divorce'."
"A mandivorced his wife onthe grounds that she wasonly giving
birthtogirls. Thecouple hadfivedaughters." "Awomanappliedfora
divorce,becauseher husbandbelievesin mysticismAnddidnot show
much interest in life.'
"Amanappliedforadivorcebecausehewantedtogetmarriedtoa
wealthywoman.""Awomanappliedforadivorcebecauseherhusband
used to hide his money in his sleeves."
"A man has divorced his wife because he claims that she Is a bad-
omen.Sincetheirmarriagehisfatherhaddiedandhisunclehadbecome
bankrupt." A couple who isnot wise andprudent, might fall into the
trapsofsuchpettymattersandapplyforadivorce.Acouple,whoseeks
separations, must not rush for it. They are recommended to consider
carefullyabouttheaftereffectsandtheirfutureindetailandthendecide.
They must specifically ponder over two points:


FirstPoint: Acouple,who seeks divorce,generallywould liketo re-
marry. But they should remember that after the divorce, the persons
knownasdivorceeswouldnothaveagoodrecordwithregardtomar-
riage.Peoplethinkofthemasselfishandunfaithful.Uponfindingouta
man'spreviousmarriageanddivorce,awomanmightdoubthisfaithful-
ness or his character. A divorced woman rarely gets a chance to re-
marry.Becausemengenerallydonotshowmuchinterestinmarryinga
divorced woman and doubt about her faithfulness.


Thereforeadivorceewouldpossiblyhavetostayalonefortherestof
hisorherlifeandmayhavetosufferfromlonelinesstoo.Beinglonelyis
a very difficult situation, and some lonely people prefer death rather
thansuchan unbearablelife.''Atwenty-twoyearold womanwho was
divorced,attempted tocommitsuicideonthenightofhersister'swed-
ding. She had one child."

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