Chapter 18
Ten Ways to Reveal Your
Attractiveness
In This Chapter
Showing that you care
Demonstrating openness
Being yourself at your best
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eauty is in the eye of the beholder and attractiveness takes many forms.
Some people like fair hair, others prefer brown. Although you may favour
a well-defined body, your best friend may fancy one that’s soft and cuddly.
Whatever your preference, the truth is that you don’t have to be a Hollywood
starlet or the next George Clooney to be attractive. What most people find
appealing is openness and someone who takes an interest in them.‘But why should I bother?’ you may ask yourself. Because people who are per-
ceived as attractive are also considered to have other positive attributes.
Numerous studies show that people think of attractive individuals as likely to
be talented, warm and responsive, kind, sensitive, interesting, poised, socia-
ble, and outgoing. And if that’s not enough reason, attractive people are also
perceived as more intelligent and happier. Whether this is true or not doesn’t
matter. If that’s how you’re perceived, why would you want to argue the point?Although physique and appearance are contributing factors in determining
your attractiveness, a person overlooks a less-than-perfect face or physique if
the body language is appealing.Using Eye Contact ........................................................................................
Think about the time someone gave you his full attention when you were speak-
ing. Chances are that he looked you in the eye, kept his body still, and offered
you encouragement to express your thoughts and feelings. His attention was