But if this guy is happy with her despite her bad points, maybe she could
find a better guy who‘d also be happy with her.
And so she has nothing to lose when she tests the current guy by
increasing her demands and decreasing her generosity. If he tries to stop her
testing, she may comply because she thinks he‘s good enough for her or she
can continue it and be ready to move on to someone else when he finally gives
up..
On the other hand, if he doesn‘t stop her then she gets more from him
while giving less to him. Once the pattern has started, she‘ll keep increasing
her testing. Eventually she‘ll get so disgusted by how little he thinks of
himself, she‘ll leave. Or he might try to make her stop before then—but by
that point it‘ll probably be too late anyway. If he tries to put an end to her
behavior and she won‘t, he might even just leave too.
BUT SHE DOESN‘T CARE EITHER WAY. She thinks she has the potential to
be with someone better so there‘s no downside for her—except letting go of
the memories of the guy she used to be with before he turned into a wuss.
Don‘t let this pattern start. Don‘t be an asshole and not give anything, but
don‘t let her walk all over you just because you want to show you care. If you
really cared, you‘d want her to be with a strong man, so you‘d be one yourself.
Mistaking Affection for Attraction
Attraction and Being Nice
So if women leave when our inner nice-guy is revealed, why do so many
guys eventually start showing their ̳super-wuss nice side‘ all the time?
Well, I often think that us guys were given some bad wiring at birth when
it comes to dealing with women.
Let me explain.
Years ago, when I first started learning how to really be more
successful with women and dating, I really thought that the best way to make
a woman like me would be to treat her nice. Be a nice guy. This way only
makes sense, of course. You be nice, and she'll be nice.
Nope.
Now, I'm not suggesting here that you should treat women bad, but I am
saying that you have to do things that are more interesting and attractive.
Have you ever known a guy that has a lot of women as "friends" but none
of them want to be with him in a romantic way? Well, I get emails all the time
from guys who say things like, "I really like this girl, but she says that she just