Have you ever seen an old TV show or movie with a girl holding a flower,
pulling off each petal one at a time, and saying, "He loves me, he loves me
not?‖
This quote is a very famous cliché... but what's really going on here? And
why is it now such a famous idea that it is almost universally known?
It‘s because it strikes a chord inside of women everywhere! Every woman
can relate to the idea of thinking about a man and wondering if he's thinking
about her.
Pulling petals off of a flower and saying, "He loves me, he loves me not" is
just another way of saying, "I can't stop thinking about this guy and I'm going
to keep thinking about him until I know how he feels."
As you may know if you've read my past newsletters or my book, I think
that it's important to CREATE this kind of situation as much as humanly
possible.
Now, here's where romance fits into the puzzle... If you're doing things
that you consider to be "romantic" all the time, then she has nothing to
wonder about... nothing to think about... there is no challenge or mystery at
all.
On the other hand, if you use romance more carefully and keep her on the
edge of her seat, then a small romantic gesture will cause her to feel GREAT
feelings of attraction inside... and cause her to work even harder to get and
keep your attention - BECAUSE SHE'LL TRY ALL THE HARDER TO GET MORE
OF THIS ROMANTIC SIDE OF YOU!
Done properly, romance is really powerful stuff, so that‘s why YOU HAVE
TO USE IT SPARINGLY. Sprinkle it like the seeds of a delicious fruit—leave
space for growth. If she can go out and harvest five at once, she won‘t grow
hungry for a while. If they‘re not around all the time, her desire will grow and
she‘ll wait expectantly for each fruit.
So remember, use romance as the spice and not the main dish. Use it to
amplify attraction, not as your main strategy.
Romance Doesn‘t Create Attraction, It Amplifies Existing Attraction
Attraction
Look, if you've gone out with a woman 47 times, and you don't know if she
likes you, and now you think "Oh, hey... great idea! I'll buy her flowers and
she'll feel attracted to me..." then get a new idea. Romance isn't a way to
make a woman feel attracted to you. Romance is a way to AMPLIFY attraction
that is already happening.