Here's an idea for you to remember: Things and people that aren't
predictable keep our attention. If you act like every other PREDICTABLE guy,
then you're going to get the same thing that they all get.
Avoid Boring Conversation
I got one letter recently where a guy was telling me that he had taken a
girl out on a date, but that there wasn't any "spark"... but he still felt attracted
to the girl. He seemed to think that just because nothing obvious was BAD
about the date that this girl should also feel attracted to him. (Maybe he
thought that a few more uninteresting, boring dates would cause her to open
her eyes and see the light.)
These guys don‘t realize that you can‘t bore a woman into feeling
attracted to you. You must learn to have a conversation about anything and be
entertaining. Learn a little bit about history, romance, story telling, music,
fashion, pop culture, etc.
Stay away from the same old boring topics: Family, school, work, etc!
Having the idea that you need to "impress" her with everything you say
leads to stilted self-conscious behaviors, conversations, and silences. Since
she‘ll interpret your words through a subtext of her own anyway, trying to be
impressive won‘t have the effect you want.
Just watch some comedies, learn some cool phrases, and keep up with
the times, so you can speak in an entertaining way about anything.
NEVER ask if you‘re her type, how she likes you so far, etc. and NEVER
tell her that you like her, have feelings for her, etc. Get over the idea that you
have to be ―nice‖ and tell her what she wants to hear to get her approval.
Don‘t argue just to get attention or be right. If you argue, do it in a
charming or funny way. And try to actually be right about the issue, okay?
There‘s an important distinction between arguing because you have to be
right all the time and arguing because it‘s kind of charming when you‘re just
plain right but she inevitably gets upset anyway.
Never let an argument escalate into an ego battle. Just don‘t do it. If it
starts escalating, bust her balls a little... but always be the bigger person.
Otherwise you look insecure, and she‘ll go from being annoyed yet attracted to
becoming angry and hostile.