really does work.
Living In an Ideal World
I‘ve noticed that humans idealize a lot.
We say things like ―I want a woman to like me for who I am‖, ―I want a
woman who is equal to me‖, ―I want to be honest and share all of my thoughts
and feelings if I feel like it‖, and ―I want a woman to look past the fact that I‘m
overweight, smelly, and uneducated.‖
Well, in an ideal world these things would be great.
But the fact is we DON‘T live in an ―ideal‖ world. The sooner we can learn
to accept and adapt to what‘s going on in this slightly-less-than-ideal-world,
the faster we‘ll get closer to our goals. (Notice I said ―closer‖ to our goals...
because goals change, and ―close‖ is often just as good or better.)
Here, look at the following chart. It‘s something I share in many of my live
seminars. It starts off with a set of common ideals that guys often have. It
then offers a more realistic view of what happens in the REAL WORLD... and
finally it describes what to ―do about it‖.
Ideal Real World What To Do“I want a woman
to like me for who I
am.”
Attractive women
are approached all
the time by men
and need to quickly
disqualify men
based on
superficial
observations.Learn a few good
techniques to get
past the initial
barriers that
attractive women
put up so she gets
the chance to know
the “real” you.“I want a woman
who is equal to
me.”
Humans aren’t
happy in “equal”
relationships.
Humans are more
comfortable if they
know where they
stand in the social
order.Learn how to be a
leader, how to
maintain control of
situations
without being
“controlling”, and
accept that she’ll
be happier this way