believe that being married or living as a couple with somebody forces
you to maintain sexual relations with your partner, as if it were a duty
which had to be fulfilled over and above everything and this is not so.
You are not forced to maintain sexual relations with your partner simply
because of being married, if you do not want or desire to, or be united
with another person purely because you are maintaining sexual
relations with him or her. Nor are you forced to feel what you do not
feel, regardless of the circumstances which brought you both together.
And most important, you must not feel guilty about this, because
feelings cannot be forced, but must emerge spontaneously. From the
spiritual point of view, above all is individual freedom, which prevails
over everything else. Whilst you do not free yourselves from
attachment, you will not be able to experience the happiness of love,
because attachment is to love what the cage is to the bird.
So when people do not love each other but maintain relationships
purely to have a good time, are they transgressing some spiritual law?
No. If the people have chosen this freely there is no problem. What
happens is that when spirits advance they expect something more
than just the sexual relationship, and a purely physical relationship will
leave them dissatisfied and will make them feel empty. Likewise, when
two people, who are united in the relationship, even though they are
sexually attracted, but are not spiritually in tune, and do not feel from
inside, the exclusively sexual relationship will end up causing disgust.
For this reason, it does not usually last long. If it is extended, it will be an
unstable relationship, always in permanent conflict, since the ties
which unite the couple are very weak.
As spirits evolve their sexuality passes from being an instinct, a
biological need, to being an instrument for expressing feeling. For
primitive humans, sexuality was basically instinctive and there could
not be an emptiness of feeling when they mated with somebody
whom they did not love, because their feeling was still barely
developed. But more evolved spirits, with a greater capacity to love,
will feel a great emptiness if, in their sexual relationships, they merely
seek to satisfy their instinct. The sexual relationship for the advanced
spirit is a manifestation of intimate love. When spirits that maintain a
sexual relationship are spiritually in tune and love each other mutually,
the feeling of deep love is manifested in the sexual relationship, and
simultaneously on the interchange between physical bodies, an
energetic interchange takes place between them, arising from the
interpenetration of the astral, mental and spiritual bodies, which fills
them and revitalises them. On the contrary, a purely sexual
relationship, that is to say in which the people who practise sex do not