Couldn’t agree more, but could we get back to the question? How can I have a friendship
with myself?
By coming to clarity on Who You Really Are—and who you are not.
Once you know Who You Really Are, you’ll fall in love with your Self.
Once you fall in love with your Self, you’ll fall in love with Me.
How can I come to clarity about who I am and who I am not?
Let’s start with who you are not first, because this is where the biggest problem is.
Okay, Who am I not?
You are not—first and foremost I want to tell you that you are not—your past. You are not
your yesterdays.
You are not what you did yesterday, what you said yesterday, what you thought yesterday.
A lot of people are going to want you to think that you are your yesterdays. In fact, some
others are going to insist that you be. They will do this because they have a big investment in
your continuing to show up that way. For one thing, they can then be “right” about you. For
another~. they can then “depend” on you.
When other people see you as “bad,” they don’t want you to change, because they want to
continue being “right” about you. This allows them to justify how they are treating you.
When other people see you as “good,” they don’t want you to change, because they want to
continue being able to “depend” on you. This allows them to justify how they expect you to
treat them.
What you are invited to do is live in the moment. Create your Self anew in the present
moment.
This allows you to separate your Self from your former ideas about you—a remarkable
percentage of which are foundationed in other people’s ideas about you.
How can I forget my past? Other people’s ideas about me are based, in part at least, on their
experience of me—on my behaviors—in the past. What do I do, just forget that I did those
things? Pretend they don’t matter?
Neither.
Do not seek to forget your past, seek to change your future.
The worst thing you could do is forget your past. Forget your past and you forget all that it
has to show you, all that it gave you as its gift.