ng for just one teacher. You’re the- I am a lover of what is. When I argue with reality, I lose—but only 100
fortable feeling is not an enemy. It’s a gift that says, “Get honest;
inquire.” We reach out for alcohol or television or credit cards, so we cansteaches what true peace is. We are waiti
one.percent of the time.- If you want reality to be different than it is, you might as well try to teach a
cat to bark. You can try and try, and in the end the cat will look up at you
and say, “Meow.” Wanting reality to be different than it is is hopeless. - An uncom
focus out there and not have to look at the feeling. And that’s as it should be
because in our innocence we haven’t known how. So now what we can do i
reach out for a paper and a pencil, write our thoughts down, and investigate
them.The Best Way to Get Started with Byron Katie
The best way to get started with Byron Katie and The Work is to read her book,
Loving What Is. I had heard of The Work, but I wasn’t particularly familiar with
the specifics of it. Then one day, I got a package in the mail that included a copy
f her book, an audiobook sampler CD, and a letter from Stephen Mitchell, the
book’s co-author.
I sat down and then started reading, listening, and learning about her unique
process of self-inquiry. Katie has been traveling around the world by invitation,
haring The Work, a technique that has you challenge your stressful beliefs about
the world around you (i.e.—your relationships with family, friends, employers,
employees, etc.).
Ka ’ tforward. It is really broken down into two parts—
writing down your thoughts and then investigating them. You begin your work by
writing down who angers, saddens, or disappoints you, including follow-up
inf m cted to your feelings. For example, “How do you want them to
change? What it is that they should or shouldn’t be?”
After you write down your thoughts, it’s time to start with the four questions,
hich make up the heart of The Work. These questions are:
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