THE TEXT MESSAGE THAT SAVED THE DAY

When we interviewed Georgia and Henry for the book, they were
constantly quarreling. According to Henry, nothing he ever did was
good enough for Georgia, and he was always being judged and
criticized. Georgia, for her part, believed that the onus of the marriage
was on her. She had to run after Henry to make even simple plans and
was always the one to initiate everything—from buying a birthday
present for his mother to deciding which apartment to rent. She felt
very alone in the partnership. When we encouraged Georgia to start
monitoring her working model, which was clearly anxious, she came up
with a particular situation that occurred frequently and always upset
her. Henry never had time to talk to her during the workday. She would
call and leave a message, but he would rarely get back to her.
Georgia’s inventory included the following entry: