Attached

My Working Model—Summarizing the Inventory

Can you identify particular situations that are prone to activate (if you
are anxious) or deactivate (if you are avoidant) your attachment system
across relationships?

Can you detect ways in which an inefficient working model has
prevented you from achieving more security?

What are the main attachment principles at play in your relationships?

Go back to your inventory and ask yourself how the secure role
models (or integrated secure role model) can shed new light on the
relationship issues you are/were dealing with.

• What would they do if they were in such a situation?


• Which point of view would they bring to the table?


• What would they tell you if they knew you were dealing with this
  issue?


• How is your experience with them relevant to the situation?

The answer to these questions will help you complete the last—and
crucial—column of the inventory.
The two examples below will allow you to better understand how this
approach can work and how to use the inventory.