your attachment system is distorting your perspective on
the relationship. Ask a friend to remind you how things
really were. Even if you sometimes miss or idealize your
ex, reality will slowly sink in.
- Deactivate: Write down all the reasons you wanted
to leave. Your objective is to deactivate your attachment
system. The best way to do so is to recall the bad
moments in the relationship, and the best way to keep
them fresh is to write them down. Take a peek at the list
when those invasive positive memories creep into mind.
- Know that no matter how much pain you’re going
through now, it will pass. Most people recover very
well from a broken heart and eventually move on to
greener pastures!
