NLP At Work : The Difference That Makes the Difference in Business

7 Considering each part in turn, ask yourself what quality or

attribute this part has to give the other. For example,

identify what gift the first part has that would enhance the

other part if it were to accept it. You may need to explore

with the receiving part in what way it would like this gift in

order for it to accept it.

8 Imagine this exchange of gifts. If at first this does not

happen, ask each part in what way or what form the other

part could give this gift in a way that the receiving part can

accept. Now imagine the exchange of gifts.

9Typically at this point if the previous two steps have been

successful there will be an automatic drawing together of

hands. This physical bringing together is an indication that

you are integrating the two parts in your thinking. If this

does not happen automatically, you can suggest it by

considering how these two parts might integrate with each

other and exist together in cooperation and bring your

hands together as you do so. If necessary, go back and

repeat steps 7 and 8 until this step is successful.

10 Now imagine how these parts together are a part of who you

are, and in so doing bring both hands together to the heart

of your chest. How has this enhanced who you are and how

you can go forward into your future?

In effect, what you are doing is encouraging different parts of

yourself to work in harmony. So often when parts are in conflict

our tendency can be to think that we have to go one wayorthe

other, when in fact it is by exploring how we can have oneand

the other together that we get the breakthrough in our

thinking. The effect of this integration is to create a state of

rapport with yourself so that you are being fully who you are

and who you can be.

If you are witnessing conflict in other people, you first need

to go through this process so that you have resolved the

conflict that you experience within. If, for example, I see two

friends in conflict with each other, there is nothing I can do to

resolve their conflict. However, I can resolve the conflict

between the parts of myself that are symbolized by these

friends. Interestingly, when I have found the resolution within

myself, my external experience will change too, as will my way

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