NLP At Work : The Difference That Makes the Difference in Business

However, while I am resolving issues for myself I begin to
recognize and consequently reinforce these kinds of issues in
others. For example:

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What I experience in the
other person
They are dismissive in the
way they speak to
colleagues.
They avoid making a
commitment to change.
They are aggressively focused
on what they want and
insensitive to the needs of
others in the way they
behave in a meeting.

What I am doing myself

I am dismissive in the way I

speak to a member of my

family.

I avoid commitment to one of

my stated outcomes.

I am single-mindedly

aggressive in my focus on

my work goals and

oblivious to the effect on

my friends and family.

Issues you might deal with
for yourself
Your willingness to let go of
something of material
importance to you.

Your ability to tell someone
close to you how much
you care/love them.
A decision to reinvent
yourself and move on to
new approaches or new
business.

Your ability to let go of trying
to control others (family
members or work
colleagues) and let them
find their own solutions.

Issues you might support in

others

Their ability to let go of

behaviors, people, or

material possessions that

are familiar and

comfortable yet limiting.

Their ability to forgive and

let go of past judgments

and be intimate.

Their ability to let go of the

must haves or the should

haves to have what they

really want despite the

cost.

Their ability to truly delegate

and give people the space

to find their own

motivation.