(^22) BODY LANGUAGE SECRETS
(you, me, everyone) are feeling. As we are "edu-
cated" by our culture we lose our innate ability to
read and speak body language.
Everything is body language-—tone of voice, clear-
ing our throats, rubbing our eyes, crossing our arms,
tapping our toes, touching our nose—everything ex-
cept the words we say.
Your eye contact, or lack of eye contact, communi-
cates. Your pauses communicate. Your crossed legs
communicate. Your open hands communicate. Your
aroma communicates.
In particular, your appearance communicates:
hair style, type of eye glasses, accessories, tattoos
and your overall choice of attire.
How you are dressed is a major part of the mes-
sage you send, but, it is an even larger part of how
your listeners receive it. The way you are dressed
dictates how others respond to you.
Clothes are a tool you use to control
how others react to you and how they treat you.
JOHN MOLLOY, DRESS FOR SUCCESS
You, cannot not communicate. No matter what you
do, or don't do, you broadcast your emotional state.
Even if you put on a poker face and sit perfectly
still, you loudly announce, "I'm trying to hide what
I'm feeling."
Each of us reveals our emotional state with non-
verbal signals. During courtship, and later in a ro-
mantic relationship, knowing what the other person
is feeling helps you behave appropriately. But, to
know what that person is experiencing, you must at-
tack the environment with your eyes, ears and, yes,
your intuition.
WOMEN ARE BETTER THAN MEN
Women's renown intuition arises from the way bi-
ology and evolution "wired" female brains. The con-
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nection between the left half and the right half of
the female brain is much larger in women than
men.
Thus, women can process and integrate rational
information from the left half of their brains with
sensory and emotional information from the right
half and know something accurately without con-
crete evidence. That's intuition.
A woman's guess is much more accurate
than a man's certainty.
RUDYARD KIPLING
The larger connection also is the source of their
ability to discern extremely subtle changes in pat-
terns. The difference in ability between the sexes is
scientifically verifiable from the age of two! NOTE l
Attention women! During courtship and dating,
use your intuition. Validate and vindicate your in-
tuition by using what you learn from this book.
SOCIAL INTERCOURSE FUNDAMENTALS
Although a few of these were part of the introduc-
tion, take some time to think about the implications
of these facts. In other words, based on this data,
what will you do during the next few courtship con-
versations that you have never done before? Take
your time. This information can, and will, change
your social life, forever!
- People form 90 percent of their opinion about
you in the first 90 seconds. - Communication is 60 percent nonverbal and
40 percent verbal. Of the verbal portion, only 10
percent is accomplished by the words them-
selves! The other 30 percent is done by how the
words are spoken, inflection and tone of voice.- The nonverbal portion of communication is ac-
complished by eye contact, posture, gestures, po-
sition relative to the listener and the attire of the
- The nonverbal portion of communication is ac-