Body Language Secrets A Guide During Courtship & Dating

(^62) BODY LANGUAGE SECRETS Further Conversations Without Words^63
still being assertive.
Caution, Men! You cannot rely on her face to tell
you when she needs to be reassured. Women are
taught that they must never offend others during
social intercourse. So, nearly all women continue to
smile and keep their faces pleasant appearing even
when they are becoming uncomfortable. Here's how
she lets you know that you are not persuading her.
YOU'RE COMING ON TOO STRONG
Averts her eyes
Nervous smile
Leans or backs away
Touches throat, necklace
Moves head to vertical
Begins to fidget
Looks around room
Touches her face or head
Turns front of body away
Picks at hand or finger
Hands begin to clench, grip
Raises drink in front of her
When you notice any, even one, of these signs,
move back physically. You may be standing or sit-
ting too close. You may be leaning into her territory
too far or too often. If you touched her, even in a so-
cially appropriate way, such as admiring her ring or
bracelet, it was probably too soon and possibly fatal!
TOUCHES MOUTH, EYES OR EARS
When the person is listening—Touches Mouth
means I don't believe you or I don't want say some-
thing rude. Touches Eye—-I can't see what you are
saying or I don't like looking at you. Touches Ear—I
don't believe what I'm hearing or I don't want to
hear what you have to say.
If the person is talking—Touches Mouth means I
don't believe what I'm saying or I'm hesitant to say
this. Touches Eye—I don't want to look at you when
I'm lying or I'm so excited or scared or confused, I
don't want you to look into my eyes. Touches Ear—I
can't believe what I'm saying. These gestures were
explained in detail and illustrated with photos ear-
lier in Lines, Lies Or The Truth.
LEANS OR BACKS AWAY
This means that you are too close physically or
emotionally. Hard to notice because most people do
not want to appear rude, so they only lean back a
little. Could indicate you have bad breath.
The topic of your conversation may be inappropri-
ate. Change subjects to something light and pleas-
ant. It is also possible that she thinks you are a
complete jerk.
When you spot two of these gestures in a row, it's
time to excuse yourself and circulate before you de-
stroy your chances forever.
TOUCHES THROAT, NECKLACE Only women.
Means that she is trying to prevent herself from
backing up or leaning away. Her hand and forearm
serve as a barrier. You have offended her with the topic
or your language or you are too close physically or
emotionally.