The Dating Black book

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DANGER SIGNS.......................................................................................................................................


Learn to recognize some of the warning signs of entering into a poisonous relationship.
These relationships do not always occur because of an unhealthy partner, but sometimes the
dynamic between the two people is toxic.
Watch out for these indications in yourself:


 Unhealthy obsession
o Often characterized by the “Amour Fou” syndrome, where romantic
obsession leads to back-and-forth crazy behavior
o Initial lust leads to a volatile chemistry, imitating love
o You don’t feel happy or good when you’re alone
o Sleep habits are erratic because of your obsessive thinking patterns
o Your priorities start to change
o Extreme jealousy kicks in, which leads to the next indicator ...
 Loss of impulse control and self-discipline
o You freak out and find yourself frequently angry
o You find yourself doing things you can’t seem to control, like parking
outside her house, or calling at all hours. You find that jealousy is now
almost constant.
o Your priorities alter even further, and you start sacrificing your hobbies,
which then contributes to the next indicator ...
 Self-destructive behavior
o Any tendency to make rash and potentially harmful decisions, such as
neglecting work or family, or a long-distance relocation for the
“relationship.”
o Violent outbursts that “aren’t like you”
o Loaning her money, or excessive self-sacrifice
o Excessive drinking, partying, or drug use
o Exercise and health become secondary priorities
o Jeopardizing your lifestyle for her.

Break this chain before it wrecks you. If necessary, seek out professional help to break
out of this self-destructive pattern. No woman is worth compromising your integrity or
happiness.


WOMEN AT 30 .........................................................................................................................................


I’ve heard this age called the “no-fly zone” for dating, meaning the age of 28 to 32.
Things change for a woman at around 27 or 28. Before this, she was in perpetual party mode.
She could cruise with the gals until the wee hours of the morn, and party like it was 1999. These
were her days of occasional one-night-stands and reckless behavior. (Hey, most guys go


LoserBoy: Sure, she’s a little
different, but nothing you can’t
handle.
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