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Unauthorized duplication or distribution is strictly prohibited. Visit http://www.datingdynamics.com for more information.You should never use women for sex. You should also never feel bad about wanting to
do some consensual groin rubbing. Get rid of your shame. It’s totally unnecessary, damaging,
and women think it’s downright pitiful.
The Myth of the “Jerk”.........................................................................................................................
Let’s talk about the other end of the spectrum. Why do women respond to and stay with
Jerks? Even when they protest how much they mistreat them? Because:
Jerks emulate the qualities of
high self-confidence without understanding it.Think about it. How does a Jerk behave?- He puts himself and his pleasure ahead of everyone else in his life
- He can (and often does) dump women who cause him grief
- He doesn’t care what others think of him – he doesn’t need anyone’s approval
- He doesn’t suck up to women or put them on pedestals
- He doesn’t let people disrespect him
- He gets angry and shows it
- He isn’t afraid of hurting a woman emotionally
The reason they have this success is that they have all the qualities that women respond
to. But what makes a Jerk too much is that they go to the extreme end of these behaviors, in
essence appearing too abrasive, self-serving, and self-centered. There is a middle ground to be
had, but it is important for you to understand why these guys are so successful with women.
Often times what women describe as a “jerk” sounds so horrible when you hear them talk about
it (and where most Nice Guys get the wrong idea, thinking that they need to seek the opposite
kind of behavior.)
The Truth is, the complaining you hear is actually a mixture of:
- A woman’s frustration at not being able to control the relationship the same
way they have in the past, and - His truly jerk-ish qualities.
Face it, guys, if it was a clear cut case of him being a genuine jerk, i.e., some asshole no
one wants to be around, she wouldn’t be with him. But he has qualities that are un-tame-able
and attractive and addicting, so she stays.
*By the way, Post-facto Jerks (the men who are labeled Jerks after the woman has broken up with him) do
not necessarily count. In this case, the women are only justifying their decision after the fact. What I term Jerks are
the men that women love to date and complain about.
A true man is always a gentleman, and the negative qualities of Jerks should be
avoided. These are: