“Exactly,” I said. “You make hard plans right then and there to see each other again.
Why wouldn’t you? It’s all about maximizing the time you have with the girl. If you get
her to commit to seeing you again while you are in her presence, she’s much more likely
to agree and KEEP that commitment than if you tried to do it over the phone at a later
date.”
“So you just say something like ‘Hey, let’s get together for dinner tomorrow night?’”
“Well, I’ll usually say something like ‘I really enjoyed hanging out with you, and I’d love
to do it again. Would you like to grab some coffee Wednesday evening,’ or something to
that effect.”
“So you tell her you liked hanging out, and ask her to do something with you on a
specific date?”
“Usually, yeah,” I said. “But there isn’t a set pattern to it. It’s all based on when I’m free
and what I feel she’d be comfortable doing with me.”
“But what if she isn’t available when you want to get together?”
“Then I’ll ask her when she’s free, and try to accommodate that schedule,” I said.
“And if she still isn’t able to get together?”
“Look,” I said. “If she’s not willing to commit to see you again, then chances are you
didn’t do a good enough job building a connection with her, OR she’s not interested in
you, so either way, you have to be ready to move on and find a different girl. But at the
very least, that’s when I would ask for the number.”
“So you do ask for the number?”
“Yeah, but only after I’ve either set up the date, or exhausted any possibility of working
out a hard time to get together with her. This way, I have an opportunity to follow up
with her.”
“And how do you ask for her number?” asked Terrence. “Is there a trick to it?”
“I usually do it in the context of exchanging numbers.”
“Like you give me yours, and I’ll give you mine?”
“Pretty much,” I said. “I might say something like ‘let me give you my number,’ then
hand her my cell phone and have her type her number in. Or ask her for her phone, and
call my number, then save it in her phone and save her number in my phone, since I just
called myself.”
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