she has at least six guys she’s met calling her, plus her friends, plus her family. That’s a
lot of people to call back, isn’t it?”
“That’s insane,” said Terrence. “I never thought of it that way.”
“So you see, its not you. In all likelihood, the girl probably likes you and would like to
see you again, she just probably gets overwhelmed with the sheer number of phone calls
she has to field on a daily basis.”
“Well, how can I get her to call me back if that’s the case?” asked Terrence. “Or am I
just screwed?”
“No, you’re not screwed,” I said. “You just need to change the way you operate. See, I
used to have the exact same problem. I’d get a girl’s number, and then it would take
forever to get together with her again. Either that, or I’d never hear back from her.”
“So what did you do? How did you get around it?”
“Simple. I stopped asking for the number,” I grinned.
Terrence grimaced as he tried to process what I just said. I laughed.
“I look at the number as a last resort,” I went on. “That’s what you go after when all else
fails, because the return rate on your phone calls is so low. You have to look at a girl’s
phone number as a consolation prize.”
“So if you don’t get her number, what do you do?” he asked.
“I ask her out right then and there,” I said. “See, the first time you meet a girl is the best
time to try and date her. You’re there, she’s there, the opportunity is there. But most
guys don’t maximize their opportunity. Instead, they get a number and try to meet up
with her some other time so they can prepare to try and date her. But that’s the worst
thing you can do, because a second meeting is anything but guaranteed.”
“So you ask her out right after you meet her?”
“Yes, but not the way you’re thinking,” I continued. “I try to mini-date her instantly and
get her to join me someplace different than where I met her. In other words, I’ll hang out
with her as quickly as possible to try and build a solid connection with her, because girls
who feel they know you better are more likely to see you again. And then, when I am
unable to hang out with her any longer – for whatever reason – I try to set up the next
date before she leaves.”
“So you go for the next date instead of the number?” asked Terrence.
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