The Art of Approaching

(Rick Simeone) #1

THE BASICS OF BEING SOCIAL


When you think of people who are social, what comes to mind? Is it the cool and popular
people who everyone enjoys hanging out with and having a good time? Are they
incredibly good look, rich, and successful?


Don’t fool yourself. Anyone can be social, even you! Too often, people will trick
themselves into thinking that you have to be a certain “type” of person to be that way.
You have to be extroverted, confident, outgoing, knowledgeable, a party animal, etc.


This is a myth we make up to justify not being more active socially.


It’s easier to say “I’m an introvert” or “I’m shy” than do the work to meet other people.
But as long as you’re somewhat friendly and not too uptight, you can befriend other
people quite easily. They may not be the type of people you’ll be best friends with until
the day you die, but they will enable you to meet others and give you the opportunity to
make good friends with people you never even dreamed of meeting.


But despite being friendly and relaxed, you’re going to want to have a firm grasp on a
few interpersonal skills that will come in handy when expanding your social life.


Attitude
A good attitude goes a long way in meeting people and getting them to like you.
Remember that positive emotions attract people, and negative ones scare them away.
The best thing you can do for your social life is to project a fun, friendly attitude.


Greet people. Shake their hand, say hi, ask them their name, etc. People like to be
greeted and welcomed, no matter where they are, because it signals that there’s
acceptance and support available to them.


Don’t be afraid to smile and laugh. These two simple things go a long way into raising
the energy level of an interaction. Plus, it’s contagious. If you smile and laugh, others
will usually do the same thing. And if they’re smiling and laughing, they’re having a
good time! And everyone loves a good time.


Look people in the eye when you talk to them. Don’t look around, scanning the room.
We all like to have attention paid to us, so make the person you’re talking to feel like you
think they’re important and worth your time.


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