But the true power of influence comes in the making of a request that the woman will
agree to. After all, when you ask her to step aside somewhere privately, you want her to
agree. When you ask her for her phone number, you want her to agree. When you ask
her for a date, you want her to agree. When you ask her to go to bed with you, you want
her to agree.
So what's the most important thing in making a request?
Oddly enough, often the most important thing in making a request is not in the request
itself. It's what you do BEFORE you make that request.
This is a little secret that's understood very well by the most accomplished, influential
pick up artists out there. I've found that those who were most successful at getting what
they asked for work very hard at first arranging a favorable psychological environment
for their request.
After all, even if you're a great guy she’d be lucky to end up with, many women won't
bother so much as to listen to your offers unless you've first done something to make
them like you, to see you as an authority on a topic, or to feel a commitment to you.
So by first establishing an environment of liking or authority or commitment or
obligation or scarcity or consensus, you give your request the benefit of falling on fertile,
rather than stony, ground.
To do this, you must recognize and construct elusive moments of influence during which
the women you are with are particularly receptive to your requests.
The trick to this is what you do before you make the request.
So, for example, there is a moment of power that you are afforded immediately after a
woman has said, “Thank you” to you.
You need to fill the moment with a request for a favor, or action, or some type of
commitment that doesn't allow that honest recognition of your gestures to evaporate into
the air.
In that moment, you should say, “Would you care to join me at my table for a few
minutes?” or “Do you have time to talk?” or “Would you care to dance?”
And at that moment after they've said, “Thank you,” they just can't say, “No” after
they've just expressed their satisfaction of your treatment of them.
It's more than just recognizing that moment. It's getting a commitment to that “thank
you.” There's something that you need that's more than a verbal acknowledgment that
you've done well. You need it an action. People live up to what they do more than what
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