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In whichever case, changing at the lower levels of the diagram (see Chapter 11)
is easier than at the higher levels. So, for example, a company may find
making changes to the building (environment), such as painting the walls a
brighter colour, is easier than changing the culture or creating a new identity
for itself. Changes like these at a higher level have an impact on people below
it; changes at lower levels can impact people above, but this isn’t a given.Jas, a very bright, well-educated 30-something, booked herself on to a
programme of Relationship Wizardry® coaching, as she’d had a series of
relationships but she couldn’t settle into anything permanent. Jas is the
daughter of very successful parents, and as a result of the coaching, she
realised that she’d modelled herself on her strong, very independent mother.
Unfortunately, her identity as a strong, independent woman prevented her
from accepting anything from people, and this affected all areas of her life.
She admitted that some of her relationship problems were because she found
it hard to accept love and would push her partner away (behaviour) if they
came too close emotionally. Jas also realised that she had some self-esteem
issues (beliefs) because she didn’t feel she measured up to the success her
mother had achieved by the time she was Jas’s age, and she didn’t feel she
deserved a successful, dynamic man like her father.
Romilla helped Jas to ‘design’ her ideal relationship using the well-formed
outcome process (see Chapter 4). One of the first steps Jas incorporated was
to change the environment where she met people. She joined groups where
she was more likely to meet people with whom she had interests in common.
Before the coaching, the misalignment through Jas’s logical levels stopped
her attaining her goal of a long-term relationship.Creating alignment in logical levels
Alignment in any venture makes things flow more smoothly and helps you to
attain your target more quickly. When you think about the logical levels (see
Chapter 11), if you have alignment through all levels, you’re going to find
success easy.Elaine is 45, married with young children, and climbing the IFA (UK’s
International Financial Advisors) ladder. She’s extremely bright and very
ambitious (one aspect of identity). She’s also passionate about women having
an understanding of how to attain financial security (values) and believes in
educating women to this end, because she ‘knows’ (belief) that every woman
has the right to financial independence.