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them. Do you share common interests? Do they like you for who you are? You’ll probably real-
ize that the qualities you admire in your friends are some of the very same qualities you’re
looking for in a girlfriend. The more aware you are of what you want, the more likely you’ll
be to get what you need from a relationship—and to give something in return. Take care.
In friendship,
Terra
Where can I find a boyfriend
who will stay?
Hey Terra,
My problem isn’t meeting guys or getting them to like me. It’s finding one who will stick
around for more than three weeks (that’s my record for boyfriends). It’s like I fall in love, every-
thing’s going great, and then the next thing I know it’s over, and I don’t even know what
went wrong! I wish I had a boyfriend who would stay with me!
Stumped
Dear Stumped,
The most successful relationships include open communication about what matters most to
the people involved (especially in the early stages of the relationship). If you talk openly from
day one, you’re more likely to handle problems as they come up, instead of realizing that
something must have gone wrong after the relationship ends.
Loving involves learning. But if you don’t get feedback, you’ll never know what you’ve
done to contribute to a breakup. The next time you’re interested in a guy who likes you, talk
honestly with him and see if he has the same values when it comes to communication. If he
doesn’t, you’ll know right away that he isn’t the guy for you. Good luck!
In friendship,
Terra