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Making Boyfriend /Girlfriend Relationships Work 73
I cheated on my jealous boyfriend
Hey Terra,
My boyfriend and I have been together for seven months. He’s very jealous and accuses me
of cheating on him all the time, which I’d never done until last weekend. At a camp reunion,
I was with a guy who I was just friends with over the summer. We ended up having sex, and
now I feel guilty. The thing is, I don’t even really care about the guy I slept with, though he
likes me a lot. I think that if my boyfriend wasn’t always accusing me of cheating, I probably
wouldn’t have done it. What now?
Uh-oh
Dear Uh-oh,
Sounds like you’re making excuses for your behavior. Your boyfriend may act jealous, but this
doesn’t give you the right to cheat on him. Own up to the fact that youchose to be disloyal,
and then figure out why you did it. Once you know, you can start repairing the damage.
Your boyfriend’s jealousy may be a sign that he’s insecure and controlling. Is it possible
that you cheated to get out of the relationship? Next time, be honest with someone you’re in
a relationship with andbe true to yourself.
And what about the guy you had sex with? Take some time to think about his feelings.
Does he think you two are a couple now? I hope you’ll take a hard look at the situation and
do what you can to fix it. Have courage and tell the guy you had sex with that you made a
mistake.
The good news is that every experience can be a learning opportunity. Take what you
learned from this difficult situation and use it to make honest and honorable choices in the
future. Good luck!
In friendship,
Terra