The Teen Survival Guide to Dating & Relating: Real-World Advice on Guys, Girls, Growing Up, and Getting Along

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Until you know what’s reallygoing on, it may be best to end this relationship, rather than

keep hurting your girlfriend. She doesn’t deserve this treatment (no one does). Promise your-

self that you’ll only get involved with someone when you’re ready to have a relationship based

on honesty, respect, trust, and open communication. I wish you well.

In friendship,

Terra

Is he cheating or not?

Hey Terra,

My boyfriend used to be so in love with me, and I felt the same way. I still love him as much

(maybe more), but he’s really changed. He never seems to want to spend time with me, and

when I call him, he’s never there. Then when I ask him where he was, he gets all mad. I’m

careful not to push him because I don’t want him to break up with me. Yesterday, his friend

asked me if I’d break up with my boyfriend if I found out he was cheating on me. I didn’t

answer, but it sure made me wonder why he asked me that. What should I do?

Confused

Dear Confused,

If it looks like cheating and smells like cheating, it probably ischeating. That might explain

your boyfriend’s behavior. If he feels guilty about the betrayal, he may be putting distance

between you (because it’s easier than telling you the truth).

When you say you’re careful not to push him, do you mean that you don’t ask him what’s

going on? He needs to know how you feel about the way he’s been treating you. I hope that

you can share your feelings honestly. If not, this relationship isn’t healthy. You deserve better,

and you deserve the truth!

In friendship,

Terra